blog challenge: day 4
bit of a touchy subject to some...but my views on religion:
well my parents aren't really that religious, i mean when i was a kid i used to catch my mom waving incense around and all that but i haven't seen her do it in a while and now my parents only do it on my grandfather's memorial. and we've never really talked about it-i don't ask them and they don't ask me.
that said, i did grow up in the bible belt so a lot of my friends growing up were some denomination of christianity. my best friend growing up was mormon and my boyfriend is episcopalian. and despite all their efforts to convert me i am still firmly agnostic. i used to be atheist but then i realized that denying the possibility of any sort of higher power is like saying that i know everything and all possibilities. so i decided to be agnostic instead. i think there is a possibility of some sort of higher power but i don't adhere to any single religion.
however, if i had kids i would probably make them go to church. they wouldn't necessarily have to believe or anything, but i think churches are a really good social network that can be very necessary growing up. i didn't go to church when i was a kid so when i started going to school i didn't know anyone whereas a lot of my classmates knew each other from church activities. plus it's a good way to stay involved in the community.
it used to crack me up in high school and college when people would assume that i didn't have any morals or ethics just because i was/am atheist/agnostic. i mean seriously-does a person really need the fear of hell to be a good person? can't someone be a good person because they know it's the right thing to do?
of course i always wondered where i learned what the 'right' thing was...i also wonder where i got my nice manners. i know my parents never taught me (i remember learning to read and write but i def don't remember being taught manners) and i'm usually more polite than they are. and i spent most of my childhood alone so i wonder where i picked it up from. is it some sort of innate behavior or did i subconsciously pick it up in school as a young child? who knows.
i don't have a problem with other people who are religious as long as they're not trying too hard to push their religion onto me. i always thought religion was a personal thing (between you and god) and sort of...comfort food for your brain? it's there, mentally, to give you comfort and get you through difficult situations but that's it.
although i do believe in ghosts and spirits but i have mixed feelings about reincarnation. i always love watching shows like 'the haunting' on discovery. well i was pretty skeptical of ghosts before this one incident: my best friend as a kid used to see ghosts all the time, personally i've never seen a ghost but i've 'felt' them. one time we were visiting her sister in chicago and we were sleeping on the couch. in the middle of the night we wake up because we hear noises coming from the kitchen-it was set up so that the living room and kitchen was one giant room. of course i couldn't see anything, and not just because i'm blind without glasses on, but my friend told me that she could see a woman standing in the kitchen messing with the things on the counter. then my friend says that the woman is walking over...and you know what my friend does? she rolls over and goes back to sleep!! i couldn't believe she just went back to sleep and left me with some ghost i couldn't even see!! anyway, it was freezing so i pulled the blanket up over my face and i swear i could feel fingers rubbing my cheek through the blanket. it was reeeeally freaky. and we asked her sister about it in the morning and she said that some mornings when she wakes up the things on the counter are in a different order than how she left them. anyway i've believed in ghosts after that incident.
another freak incident: that friend once dated a guy that could also see ghosts. she said one time they were sitting on the couch watching a movie when a ghost walked past them in the room and she goes 'did you see that?" and he goes "yep". freaky right? which then makes me wonder why some people can see them and some can't. is it genetic? or is it that they're more 'open' on some psychological level? i don't know but it makes me wonder if should be glad or sad that i can't see them.
what about you-do you believe in ghosts? have you had any freaky run-ins with spirits? i love hearing ghost stories to please share!!